What If One of Your Bridesmaids Didn't Like Your Groom?

Would you want a friend with a bad attitude in your wedding party?

Writes Save the Date Ree:

I recently got engaged and am in the beginning stages of wedding planning. Everything has been great, except when it comes to the bridal party.

I have one friend, Kate, who I was extremely close with in college. She has been there for a lot of good and bad times. When I started dating my boyfriend, Joe, Kate was really supportive and they got along well. Then Kate came to visit right after Joe and I moved in together ...

Joe and I moved to a place where we didn't know anyone and were having some trouble adjusting to living together. During Kate's visit, Joe and I were the embarrassing bickering couple. After her trip, I apologized for our childish behavior and things have gotten a LOT better, which I told her.

But based on that visit, Kate decided Joe was horrible for me. Any time I mentioned his name, she would say something dismissive or downright nasty.

It all came to a head on my birthday. Joe, who was now my fiance, arranged for seven of my closest friends to come for a surprise weekend visit. Kate spent the entire weekend talking trash about my friends from my hometown, my fiance, and everything else. I distanced myself from her after that weekend because she really hurt my feelings.

But now that I've started planning the wedding, I'm torn. I always assumed she'd be a bridesmaid, but now it feels weird, since she doesn't support my relationship and will probably just bring drama to the situation. I really want to include the rest of our group of friends in the bridal party because I love them, but it will be awkward leaving JUST her out. Can I leave one friend from a group of friends out? Do I have to ask her? Should I just have a super-small party with none of my friends from college? Help!