Reader's Dilemma: Should I Date Around Before I Get Engaged to the Only Boyfriend I've Ever Had?
But I know that being sure you want to get engaged to your boyfriend is only half the battle; you still want to quiet those naysayers.
My mom had a great response to the people who asked her if she wished I'd break up with Paul before we got engaged. "Why would I want her to get her heart broken a bunch of times only to come back to the guy she knows is the one for her?" Right on, Mom. True, there's plenty to learn from heartbreak, but you can pick up the bulk of those lessons from your forlorn friends.
So when your family and friends suggest that you break up with your wonderful man before you get engaged, try these comebacks:
"So I can risk losing the thing that makes me happiest in this world? No thanks."
"I know some people need to see what else is out there before making a commitment this big, but I don't. I hope you can respect that and be happy that I found my future husband without having to date a bunch of losers first."
"You think he's great, right? Well, I agree, and I don't think there's anyone more perfect for me out there."
And if nothing else, feel free to use me as an example: "There's this Glamour blogger who dated her boyfriend without ever breaking up from age 13 to when she got married at age 25. And she's still thrilled with her decision two-and-a-half years into her marriage."
Are any of you considering getting engaged to the only serious boyfriend you have? Have you had to deal with doubters? What do you tell them?
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