How to Make a Sex Tape: Tips, Advice
Or take it a step further and go all out with a sexy costume! Are you a frisky French maid? Or a naughty schoolgirl in need of some discipline? This is your moment to act out your deepest fantasies.
Warm Up: Remember those candles we talked about? They're not only there to provide excellent ambience—you can also bring those bad boys into play (that's why I made these). Take turns giving each other a sensual massage using the wax from a massage candle (they're made from special oils so they feel softer and cooler than real candle wax—think warm, not scalding!). Drip the warm, luxurious oil on your partner and give him a full body rubdown, then switch. It'll look sexy on film and feel amazing on your glistening bodies. Plus, the slick oil will enable you to slip and slide all over each other, which will make for great sex.
Let Go: You already know that the best sex is when you get into the moment. If you're self-conscious about your body or facial expressions, the camera will pick up on (and so will your partner). Focus on how you're feeling in the moment and less on what you look like. Trust me, your O-face is going to look better if you're not trying to turn it into a flatline.
Emote: The last thing you want is to be bored by your own sex tape. If he's just doing the ol' in-and-out and you're lying there like a corpse, this won't be pretty. Get into it, girl! Switch up your positions, moan when something feels good, touch your partner like you mean it, and look into his eyes.
Experiment: Play around with the power dynamics of domination and submission and try some light bondage with sexy restraints and a blindfold. Throw in some dirty dialogue by describing what you feel or what you want your partner to do to you.
Watch It Together: Remember, this visual souvenir is for the two of you to enjoy and have fun with. Think of it as the sexiest porn you've ever seen, or those moments in bed with your partner that are so hot that you wish you could relive them over and over again, and keep them in mind while the camera is rolling. Do what turns you both on the most, because that's all that matters.
Delete It: That brings me to my number one tip for a successful sex tape experience: Shoot, watch, delete. I'll say it one more time: Shoot it. Watch it. DELETE IT. That's the only way to ensure the experience is fun and private—not a disaster.
So you know the risks. You know the requirements. Let's talk rewards. When done right, there is something very erotic and intimate about recording and watching your sexual fantasies with a partner. The surveillance factor of a watching camera creates an added thrill, and watching it later can actually reignite that same kinky flame. Just remember that sex tapes are meant for two and aren't meant to be kept forever. Enjoy a night of fun, play it back, then delete it. After all, you can always make another one!
*Emily Morse is a sexologist, host of the Sex With Emily podcast, and cofounder of Emily & Tony. She has a doctorate in human sexuality and is the author of *Hot Sex: Over 200 Things You Can Try Tonight and a weekly cohost of the nationally syndicated radio show Loveline With Dr. Drew Pinsky.
