How to find sugar mummy in Nigeria; common platforms to help your search

A sugar mummy is a woman who dates and provides a younger lover with financial support. Humans are naturally built to crave companionship, to seek out each other; anybody who tells you otherwise is a liar. It was why God created Eve for Adam and didn’t leave him to find solace in the company of animals (make from that whatever you will).

However, while seeking each other out is easy enough, sticking together seems to be the hard part. Everyone seems to want different things, and most often than not, this crops up between people in a relationship. This is probably why people are widening their scope and searching for older or younger lovers, and all the while, judgemental faces frown from the sidelines.

In recent times, this trend has become almost legal, as society no longer views it as a deplorable act, nor is it punishable by any law; only moral stances stand against it. So if you thought it was viewed as moral decadence, you’re probably right. However, there is more to it than just what is seen through the moral lens.

So, are you a young, handsome, and well-built young man with a refined carriage, but you’re unfortunately under sapa‘s radar with no visible hope of shaking him off any time soon? Or are you a lonely, older woman with a lot of money who has found out the hard way that money is not the answer to everything? Welcome, then, to this humble platform, where hopefully, I might be able to kill your two birds with one stone.

That being said, I hope again that my babe doesn’t read this; I’ll be hard-pressed to explain the depth of my knowledge. Or maybe I’ll just blame it on my editor.

Table of Content hide 1What is a Sugar Mummy? 2Sugar Mummies In Nigeria and How To Find Them 2.1Package Yourself Right 2.2Learn How To Spot Them 2.3Get Into Her Good Graces 2.4Sugar Mummy Dating Sites

What is a Sugar Mummy?

A sugar mummy, also known as a cougar, is an older woman who dates a younger man and spends money on him for intimacy, time, and other self-satisfying urges that she demands based on her personal needs. They are often divorced or older single women looking for companionship due to loneliness or singleness due to divorce, widowhood, or being a single mother, although some might be childless. Also, some of them might still be married but undergoing marital problems.

Despite the lingo, not all sugar mummies are looking for sexual prey. Some of them might be searching for an equal, and since they have been unable to find it in men their age, they turn to younger men. In a lot of cases, cougars are incredibly driven and energetic and thus need someone with a lot of energy to keep up with them.

And while it is important to know what a sugar mummy is, it is also equally important to know the other role in the partnership, which is the cub. This is the young man who receives the cougar’s lavish affection. The cub is very much considered to be the cougar’s, and vice versa, and while the relationship might begin on purely physical grounds, it can progress to something more built on mutual activities and trust and even transcend into a traditional relationship.

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Sugar Mummies In Nigeria and How To Find Them

Sugar daddies are more popular because in most countries, especially Nigeria, a man is in a more powerful position to provide for a woman. But that doesn’t mean there aren’t sugar mummies.

However, unlike sugar daddies and their daughters, finding a sugar mummy in Nigeria can be tasking due to what seems like privatization of the business. Young men who have the connection, rather than share the secret with their peers, would rather hoard the knowledge and prefer to be cubs to several rather than share the national cake. I mean, really? How many you alone wan chop?

But that doesn’t mean you cannot find a nice and generous sugar mummy to wipe away your financial problems. You just need the following:

Package Yourself Right

They say dress the way you want to be addressed, ergo, everything na packaging. Treat your search like you’re going on a job hunt; get an attractive haircut, nice masculine wears to show your assets… the entire works. You want your prospective sugar mummy to be attracted to your look first, and she isn’t liable to do so if you’re looking like Ali that didn’t go to school.

Learn How To Spot Them

This is, perhaps, the most important tip of all, and it probably should have come first. All the packaging in this world will not help you if you don’t know how to spot what you’re looking for. It’s like a hunter who is going to hunt antelope without knowing what an antelope even looks like. You must learn to spot them at first sight.

Usually, one of the most striking and outstanding features of a potential sugar mummy is that she will refuse to look old, even when they’re past middle age. They are always spectacularly dressed, with great fashion senses, tantalizing make-up, and great hairdos. And even under their clothes, their bodies are almost always kept in shape, at least for the modern ones.

Get Into Her Good Graces

Now that you’ve identified your potential sugar mummy and you’re sure she ticks off all the right boxes, then it’s time to ingratiate yourself with her. You do this by making her notice you, probably through lending helping hands. Despite women harping for feminism and equal rights, most are still suckers for chivalry and want to be treated specially. A sugar mummy is a sugar mummy because she is looking for companionship and attention that she is otherwise not getting, so if you can make that available, eureka! You’re in.

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Here’s a list of places where you can find sugar mummies:

• Club
• Hotels
• Social club meetings
• Bar
• Restaurant
• Parties

Here are some things to avoid at all costs, as these send out red flags, and cougars won’t want someone with these characteristics:

1. Don’t be toxic or try playing them. You should know that these women have life experiences, and you can’t con them.
2. Never appear desperate, as this will make it look like you’re ONLY in for the money.
3. When meeting up for the first time, DO NOT ask her to be your sugar mummy outright. Just get into a relationship, care deeply for her, and give her anything she needs. You probably won’t even have to start making demands before she starts giving.
4. Never go through an agent to look for a sugar mummy. Some people will pose as contractors and claim to have the necessary connections to link you up; do not trust them. They will dupe you and WILL NEVER get you one.

However, you need to do your background work very well to be sure that whoever you have marked is indeed a cougar, before you shoot the wrong shot. I am merely advising you and not responsible for any occupational hazards that you might encounter. And besides, who told you that your search has to be done locally? We live in a digital age, after all.

Sugar Mummy Dating Sites

Here are some sugar mummy dating sites you can check out for both home and abroad connections:

• Tinder
• Match
• Sugar Mom
• Victoria Milan
• OkCupid
• SeekingArrangement
• Bumble
• Find Love

So now you see, sugar mummy (I don’t know the adverb to use to qualify it… sugar mummery? sugar mummying?). This act is not the vice that society has painted it to be. If you’re single and need money or a partnership, nothing stops you from getting one for yourself. Think of it as a relationship/business contract.

Nevertheless, I’m still gonna blame everything on my editor if my babe finds this. 

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