Dating Men: How to Turn Down an Invitation to Go to His Place
Unless you have awesome self-control, hanging out at a date's house often leads to hooking up. Not ready for that just yet? Read on for a few tips on how to turn him down--without hurting his feelings.
Let's assume that you are into this guy, but you don't want to get too physical at the moment. Personally, I try to wait as long as possible before I have sex with a new guy, and even then, I'm not always keen on sleepovers. (I have a Tempur-Pedic bed, mind you.) So, unless I'm ready to check out his pad, I always have a solid plan to head back to my place—alone!
1. Don't take offense
He might know that there's a slim chance you'll accept his invitation, but he may ask anyway. This doesn't mean he thinks you're just a hookup. Therefore, don't take it as an insult if he does try to entice you over for a nightcap. As long as he's respectful, and he accepts your decision not to join him, you can't blame a guy for trying!
2. Give him a reason
A flat "NO" to an invitation may make him worry that you just aren't into him, so give him a concrete motive for passing on the offer. But remember, you don't need to go on and on explaining yourself. A simple, "I'm just not ready yet" will do. I've also said, "I have an early start tomorrow." Don't be afraid to make him work for alone time with you!
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3. Stick to your guns
Men are constantly looking for loopholes in your argument, so he may try to convince you that your dog doesn't really need a walk, you'll sleep perfectly well on his lumpy mattress and you can totally wear those clothes to work again! Tell him you appreciate what a problem solver he is and make plans to hang out again—at a neutral location!
