4 Things He Thinks the First Time You Sleep With Him

What that means for you: Hopefully you're psyched too! And maybe just leave it at that? The morning after is not the time to have "the talk." It's probably a better time to have "morning sex."

We Stress About Our Performance

*And that worry tends to, ah, harm our performance by hastening it, if you know what I mean. Sometimes we can't control our excitement about new, gorgeous you. And if we think we've failed in pleasing you, we think we've failed as men.

What that means for you: Have a heart if the sex isn't good. I bet he'll improve once he relaxes a bit. However, if the sex was bad because he was only interested in pleasing himself, show that guy the door.*We're Not Grading You

Believe it or not, men do not go into sexual experiences expecting them to be like the last porn we watched. We know what's real and what's not, and when we're in bed with an actual naked female, the last thing on our mind is some other naked female, particularly one with fake hair, fake body parts, and fake moans.

*What that means for you: *Cliche alert— be yourself. There's no need for theatrics, acrobatics, or special lighting, unless those are your thing. We're there for you.

We Don't Read a Lot Into It

Ultimately, the first time is...the first time, not necessarily a blueprint for all future sex-capades. I dated a woman after college, and we had incredible first sex: tender, sweaty, and mind-blowing. But our relationship didn't work, and the sex was never that good again. Likewise, bad sex the first time isn't going to send us running for the hills. Remember, we're psyched just to be there.

What that means for you: Takes a lot of the pressure off, right? Honestly, I'm on the fence about whether Egg Lady and I truly connect, and I think she is too. We need to spend more time together—in bed and out—so that's the plan. I'll let you know how it goes.

—Jake

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